How to Meet and Date Thai Girls (Plus My ThaiCupid Review)

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So you are interested in meeting and dating Thai girls?


As someone who lived in Thailand for many years, I can honestly say that Thai girls are the most beautiful girls in all of South East Asia. Not only do they have beautiful faces, slim bodies and long dark hair. But they also have sweet personalities and a family focused culture. This means divorce is much less common in Thailand compared to the United States and Western Europe.

Doesn’t this sounds like the perfect girlfriend?

I am sure you agree. And by now I bet you’re asking yourself how you can also meet these Thai beauties.

Well, in the past I had some luck finding girls on the streets and bars in Bangkok, but I can honestly say that the Internet is by far the best place. You see, In Thailand online dating has not yet been ruined like in the west, and it’s still possible to find a quality Thai girlfriend online. 

Plus, you don’t even have to be in Thailand!

But what if you’re new to Thai dating culture, or never met a girl online before?

No sweat, your boy Andy got you!

You see, I clearly remember the pain when I first started out dating hot Thai girls. In my own case, it took many weeks of hard work to figure out the complicated Thai dating culture – and I did plenty of rookie mistakes along the way!

To make your life easier I have written this handy guide that covers everything there is to know about meeting and dating sexy Thai girls. First we are going to have a look at Thai Cupid, a site that claims to be one of the most popular Thai dating sites. Next, I’ll talk about how to use Thai Cupid to meet hot Thai girls, and last we’ll talk about Thai dating customs. As bonus I will finish off talking about tips for living and marrying a Thai woman.

Let’s dive right in!

My Thai Cupid Review

Thai Cupid is the most popular Thai dating site. They have a huge user base with thousands of single sexy Thai girls. Plus, most girls have at least basic knowledge of English.

In addition, Thai Cupid is operated by the well established Cupid Media network, an international company that owns and operates over 30 successful dating sites. Thus your financial and personal data is in safe hands.

The site itself is very easy to use and the design is simple and slick. At first glance it may look like any online dating site out there but let me tell you that looks can be deceiving. You see, when I did my Thai Cupid “research” I estimated that over 90% of the beautiful Thai women are there to meet a foreign man. And with very little effort I received at least 15 messages per day. And I was able to get the hottest Thai women out on dates!

All in all, I think it’s fair to say that the girls on Thai Cupid are actually chasing after the men! The total opposite of how dating works in the west.

Not bad right?

Certainly, but of course everything is not roses.

The one negative thing with Thai Cupid is their subscription model. You see, when you register you can create a profile, search for hot Thai girls and check out their profiles. But to be able to send messages you have to purchase a premium membership.

Sure, this is not great but let me explain why I don’t mind doing this.

At the end of the day a premium membership is not that much more than a few drinks in a random bar. In fact, you likely spend much more money on an average night out, while yielding far less results.

Now here’s the important part:

Thai Cupid will actually end up saving you both time AND money.

In my opinion, Thai Cupid is by far the best Thai dating site. There’s just no comparison when it comes to the huge amount of quality girls on the site. And most Thai girls are not here to scam you. They are genuinely hoping to find a western boy friend!

However, since the world is becoming more global and intertwined with each passing year, there’s no guarantee that Thai Cupid will stay this good forever. Very likely it will soon be as bad as online dating in the west – so now is the right time to start looking for your Thai dream girl!

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How To Use Thai Cupid To Meet Thai Girls

As mentioned above in my Thai Cupid review, the site is very easy to use. However there are still plenty of guys that end up empty handed. Most mistakes are due to cultural misunderstandings, but a lot of men also make critical mistakes when they use the site. This could be everything from using low quality photos to sending bad opening messages.

So, to make your life easier I have written this handy guide how to use ThaiCupid to it’s fullest potential, while also avoiding all the pitfalls. Here are just a few things I will talk about:

  • How to create an account on ThaiCupid
  • How to create an attractive and interesting profile
  • Select photos that will make her fall in love
  • Which messages have the highest response rates
  • How to minimize your risks
  • And much much more!

Register An Account On ThaiCupid

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If you are planning a trip to Thailand, it’s enough to signup on ThaiCupid 2 weeks before your departure. If you start messaging that sexy Thai girl much earlier than that, you will waste a lot of time entertaining all of them. Very likely some girls will lose interest and move on. In my opinion, two weeks is the sweet spot and you will have plenty of dates scheduled by the time of your arrival in Thailand.

Signing up on ThaiCupid is easy and takes less than 5 minutes. Head over to the ThaiCupid login page and enter your e-mail or Facebook in the form on the left side. Then hit the “View Singles Now” button.

First of all, you should add some more information to your profile. The more details you add, the better job ThaiCupid will do matching you with the right Thai women. At the very least make sure you included a short biography, your age and your location (home country or planned destination in Thailand).

Now here’s the most important part:

Your profile photo. You see, your profile photo will be the first (and usually the only thing) a hot Thai girl will check out. A great looking photo may very well be the difference between a reply or no reply at all. I recommend to use a photo where you are wearing some good clothing, for instance a well fitted shirt or a suit.

In addition, add some more photos with you doing some interesting activity, for example sports, traveling etc. Make the photos tell a story of you. A story where you’re a successful and interesting guy!

Pro Tip: If you add a photo of you with a baby or a pet, your inbox will blow up. Young Thai girls love kids and cute animals!

Searching For Beautiful Thai Women

thai girls thai cupidThe search form is where you enter your search criteria. First of all, I recommend to limit your searches to hot Thai girls that live close to where you’ll be staying, for example within 50 kilometers of Bangkok. In addition, I recommend to filter out Thailand women who are not very active on the site. For instance, I prefer their last activity to be one month or less. Finally, if you wish to add more search criteria, head over to the Advanced Search menu. 

Another cool function is the Members Online feature where you can see all the Thailand women who are currently online. This is very useful, because you can launch a chat session and start interacting instantly with those sexy Thai girls.

Finally, there is a feature called Matches where you can see all the Thailand women that ThaiCupid believes will be a good match for you.

After you have submitted your search, you are presented with the result. As you can see, there are 5 different options for interacting with the hot Thai women: check out her profile, send her a message, show interest, add her to your favorites or start a chat session.

If I find a young Thai girl attractive and interesting, I send her an interest followed by a short message.

Pro Tip: You can save your best search queries for future use in the Advanced Search menu.

Conversation Tips

First of all, your opening message doesn’t need to be overly complicated. Just make sure it doesn’t look like a mass mail message. That means to include her name. Just a simple tweak like that will increase your chances for a reply. The fact of the matter is, if you appear to be a normal, sane guy with a good profile photo, your chances for a reply will be as high as 80 to 90%!

Pro Tip: you can increase the chances for a response even further by scanning her profile and come up with a good question or a compliment.

After playing around with different openers, I think simpler is better, and I usually just write this to a Thailand woman that I am attracted to:

Hi [name]. I am Andy from San Francisco. How are you? 

After you exchanged a few messages, ask for her Line ID and move the conversation there.

Pro Tip: Line is absolutely essential in Thailand. Whatsapp and Viber are not widely used.

Never ever discuss money. That includes questions about your salary, hinting that she needs new clothes or have a relative who need expensive medical care. If those topics come up, tread with caution. It could be a sign that she has other intentions with your relationship. The exception is taxi money for the date. If this question comes up I just offer to order her a Grab or Uber.

If you followed all the steps in my guide, you will easily have at least 10 dates scheduled before your arrival in Thailand.

Good luck with finding your Thai beauty!

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Thai Girl Dating Culture

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After you exchanged a few messages on Line, ask her if she wants to meet up for a drink or coffee. If the answer is no, just move on. There are plenty of young Thai girls on ThaiCupid, so there’s no need to get attached to a time waster.

For to the first date venue, I prefer a bar or small restaurant with reasonable drink and food prices. But here’s the important part: Do not let her change the venue after it’s been decided! And do not let her to bring along a friend or family member. By following these simple rules, 90% of all the gold diggers will be weeded out.

The one thing to keep in mind when dating Thailand girls is to not look like yet another sex tourist. You see, all her life she’s heard stories that all westerners (or Farangs as they call us) only come to Thailand to buy sex. Instead, dress well and treat her with respect, and she will fall in love after the first meeting. (Yes, Thai babes fall in love easily).

During the date she may ask questions you never heard on a date with a western girl. They can range from “do you own or rent your apartment” to “What jobs does your parents have?”. Some questions may even seem invasive, but try to answer them anyway. You see, if you followed all my advice above she is likely not a gold digger. She is just trying to figure out your social class, so she doesn’t face the risk of dating down, something that’s frowned upon in Thai culture. Try to answer them truthfully but don’t brag. If you lie, she will find out eventually.

Never ever date a bar girl or go-go girl! Bar girls may come across as sweet and lovely, but they are experts when it comes to fleecing men. A relationship with a Thai bar girl will likely end in tears and an empty wallet.

And yes there are ladyboys in Thailand. And yes even on ThaiCupid. That being said, in most cases they are easy to spot. Look for an Adam’s apple, men size feet and hands, overly feminine mannerisms and aggressive behavior. When in doubt whether she’s a Thai lady boy or not, ask for her ID.

Thai Girl Relationship Tips

thai girls thai cupidLike in any conservative country, your Thai girlfriend will be naturally submissive. In addition to that, she will expect you to be masculine and be the leader in the relationship. Of course this does not mean you should go “alpha asshole” on her. You see, she will listen to her boyfriend, serve him and accept that he’s the head of the family. However, this is not a guarantee you can do anything you please, in particular when it comes to being unfaithful in your marriage or relationship.

When you have become a bit more serious with your Thai girlfriend, she will ask you to visit a temple (Wat) with her. While this may seem weird at first, this is great fun and a good way to connect more deeply with her. Plus, you will learn how to give merit at a Buddhist temple. Something that most visitors to Thailand will never experience!

If she offers to introduce you to her family, you can safely assume she’s serious with you. You see, when you’re marrying a Thai woman, you marry her complete family. It will be difficult to get the That girl unless her family approves of you. They will think you’re “just another tourist”.

Physical Intimacy In Thai Dating Culture

When it comes to physical intimacy in Thai dating culture, subtle touches in public areas are fine, but only if nobody sees it. You see, Thai girls are very conservative when it comes to public affections. While holding hand is OK, too much kissing or physical touches will make her very uncomfortable.

But don’t for a second think this means she’s shy in private. In fact, far from it. I can honestly say that the sex I had with my Thai girlfriends were some of the best I ever had. Plus, they are very curious and open to try new things in the bedroom!

Living With A Thai Woman

In addition to my experiences dating beautiful Thai girls, I also had the pleasure of living with a Thai woman for over two years.

First of all, let me give you some background. My ex Thai girlfriend came from a middle class background. She has a university degree and owned both a condo and a new car. In other words she was neither a rich HiSo (High Society) Thailand girl nor a poor rural Isaan girl. 

So what’s it like living with a Thai woman? Well, generally speaking it was a good experience. I would say far better than my previous relationships with western girls, and here are are just a few of the benefits:

  • Very little fighting. In fact, when I had a bad day she did her best to try to cheer me up
  • She always came home with a smile on her face, genuinely happy to see me
  • I received some great neck and back massages every day
  • She cooked great and healthy Thai dishes. Twice per day
  • And yeah, in case you are wondering the sex was great!

Marrying A Thai Woman

Well, unfortunately I can’t claim to be an expert on this one since I never married a cute Thai girl. But, I heard a thing or two from friends that tied the knot in the land of smiles.

First of all, when marrying a Thai woman you need to be aware of Sin Sod, or the Thai dowry. Sin Sod is paid to the bride’s parents as a sort of compensation for loss of income. You see, many Thailand girls are sending a big part of their salaries to their parents, and for many families this money stops coming when the Thailand girl gets married. 

With that being said, the Sin Sod amount can be negotiated. The amount depends on the girl’s age, if she’s been previously married and/or have kids. (Yes Thailand is still an old fashioned country!). In addition, well off HiSo parents or westernized parents don’t expect much, and paying the Sin Sot can just be a nice way to show that you understand Thai customs. And in many cases they will give you the money back the next day. 

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Other Questions About Meeting & Dating hot Thai Girls

Do I need to verify my Thailand Cupid profile? Not necessarily. But if you do, a “trust badge” will show up on your profile, hence more beautiful Thai women may reply to your messages.

What if I live abroad and have no plans to visit Thailand? I would still try Thailand Cupid. Many beautiful Thai women want to meet men that lives in western countries, and a majority of them are even willing to relocate. You can filter out the Bangkok women that are willing to relocate in the Advanced Search form.

Hey Andy, I don’t want to pay a dime to meet my Thai ladies. Is there an app with Thai women seeking men that are 100% free? Well there’s always Tinder, which is a decent Thai dating app. But from my experience there are a lot more Thai Ladyboys and less Thai hotties on Tinder. In addition, to be able to get the most out of the Tinder app you need to buy the paid premium subscription. Thai Flirting is another Thailand dating site but it’s much smaller than Thailand Cupid, and the quality of the Thai chicks are also lower.

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Did you like this handy guide about hot Thai women, dating Thai singles and my Thai Cupid reviews, you can also check out my other guides on Japanese womenVietnamese GirlsIndonesian women and Filipino women, as well another piece on the recent Thai visa changes.

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  1. Yo Andy. I just wanted to say that your guide helped me a lot when I prepared for my first Bangkok trip. Your advice to start pipeline girls 2 weeks before the trip was spot on! The amount of smoking hot Thai girls that I talked to was staggering and I had many meetings setup when I arrived. My Bangkok vacation was amazing and I will be back soon again.

    Thanks a lot!

  2. I am a 34 year old guy who lives in Bangkok and I can honestly say this is a great guide.

    First, Thai girls are very different from western girls, and it’s good to know how the dating culture works in Thailand before going there. I think this guide covered most of it!

    Second, Thaicupid is the best and most convenient way to meet local girls. Tinder is a second. But Tinder is more a way to meet a short term fling, while Cupid has more quality girls that are looking for a long term relationship.

    Looking forward to read more about your posts in the future Andy!

  3. I just moved in Thailand and I really think that Thai girls are really pretty and very nice. I actually read your tips and recos two months ago and it really worked! Me and my girlfriend just celebrated our first month together. 🙂

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